NLP and what it's done for me...
I attended an introduction to NLP practitioner's course recently. I learned a lot. Everything from report building skills, to how to set (good) triggers, take self inventory, and use advance hindsight. There was one specific thing I learned though that has changed the way I see the world.
I’d like to think we all have those memories that haunt us slightly. But maybe it’s just me? I had memories, that with the right words or action; all of a sudden my mind would go… ‘Hey, remember this.’ Some of them are pleasant memories. Some of those memories are not so pleasant.
I had assumed that this is something I just have to live with. That some memories will come rushing back without much warning and overwhelm you. Taking you back in time, both physically and mentally. I was wrong. What I learned that changed my perspective was the idea of associated and disassociated states, specifically in relation to those memories.
While the class was learning this very valuable information I was having a quite breakdown in my chair. I recognized that some of these past experiences that still cause me stress were in an associated state. As identified by the fact that when I revisited them I was not viewing them as a third party but as if through my own eyes again.
Through an activity I learned that day I now know how to move a memory into a disassociated state. Applying that to a few specific past traumas that gave me a lot of pain, fear and anxiety, I quickly realized I did not have to experience those feelings just because I was remembering the event.
That coupled with the fact that we did some trigger setting, future pacing and desired state association activities mean that I have floated through my time since then, simply happier and more relaxed.
I am happy to share that one of my triggers had always been two numbers, 9 and 11. Innocuous when separate but when said together my breath would shorten and I’d break out in a sweat. Having been a small child in New York at the time I had assumed that it was such a traumatic experience I simply would never get over completely. When working with a psychologist the term PTSD was thrown around a bit as an explanation for why it still bothered me. But that was a diagnosis and not a solution.
I do not have remotely enough gumption or hubris or even knowledge to say that disassociating memories would help with other people who still experience flashbacks to previous trauma. But if anyone else out there has a similar issue, and like me you’ve assumed it’s just something you learn to deal with, there may be another way. And NLP may be something you want to consider.
One thing I have taken away from my new knowledge is that I can exist in any state I want. I can feel powerful and calm every day. It is not dependent upon the external stimulus. I am the reason I have a good day or a bad day. Not the things that happen. And I don’t have to let any previous version of myself or past experience continue to effect my present and my future. I would highly suggest working with an NLP trained practitioner if any of this sounds appealing. And I would be remiss if I didn't suggest my friend Divya who first got me interested in and transforming through NLP.